We have all launched ourselves on the road to happiness. We are obsessed with the pursuit of it, but all too often, we become discouraged. We struggle and bumble our way along, but somehow happiness continues to elude us.

Part of the problem is that the term, happiness, is kind of vague. We set off on our search for it before we know what it is or how to obtain it. Many of us have created a monster with our relentless pursuit of happiness. We’ve chosen this broad and mighty goal “HAPPINESS” and then we set about trying to achieve it by eliminating all of the negative aspects of our lives, identifying our one true passion, divining our life’s purpose and setting out to achieve our life’s dreams…all before lunch. Then we wonder why it isn’t working.

And yet, it is true that the pursuit of happiness is worth the effort. Research has shown that positive emotions have not just the benefit of momentary pleasure, but of long-term well-being also. Positive emotions bring us pleasure, counteract the damaging effects of negative emotions, build resilience and promote long-term physical and emotional health. (See my prior post on The Power of Positive Emotions) We don’t want to give up on happiness, but we do need to find an easier way.

As we all know, when we have a big goal, it helps to break it down into smaller pieces. If we think of happiness as an overarching emotional state that is created by the presence of other, positive emotions, the process of achieving happiness becomes less daunting.

Joy, contentedness, love, interest, and satisfaction are some of the positive emotions that lead us to feel happy. The more we experience these positive emotions, the happier we’ll be.

Easy so far, right? But how do we cultivate positive emotions? That’s easy too, if you’re willing to let it be.

When we engage in activities or spend time with people (or animals) that we like, we tend to feel positive emotions. You might experience joy when you tickle your baby and make him smile, or feel interest when you read the editorial section of the paper or feel content when you snuggle up with your husband to watch a movie. There are many things in our lives that generate positive emotions. Simply put, the more time you spend engaged in activities that induce positive emotion, the more positive emotion you will feel and the more likely you will be to achieve an overall sense of happiness.

To get you started I’ve included a very generic list of ideas for ways that you can invite more positive emotion into your life. You will, of course, put your own, personal spin on these and identify the specific people or activities that will bring about positive emotion in you. These are just ideas to get you started thinking:

Exercise.

Okay, no groaning now. Exercise, beyond making you more fit, also brings about the release of endorphins. This is a “feel good” chemical that is produced in your body. Now come on, who doesn’t want to feel good? You might like lifting weights or running or prefer to join a local basketball league. Any moderately strenuous physical activity counts.

Spend Time With Others.

Time spent with people (not just any people, but upbeat, positive people) can bring about feelings of joy, love, interest etc. Go out with your friends, visit with family, chat with the mailman. Don’t feel like talking? Just smile at people once in a while…when they smile back, which they will do most of the time, see if it doesn’t make you feel good.

Don’t forget your animal friends either. Playing with the dog, watching the birds or rabbits in the back yard or even chatting with your son’s pet hamster can make you feel more content or even make you laugh. (Yes, I do talk to my son’s hamster and my daughter’s as well…is that a problem?)

Quiet Your Mind.

Formal meditation, prayer or even just sitting with your eyes closed for a few minutes can bring about relaxation and a sense of inner peace.

Spend Time in Nature.

I’ve written ad nauseum about the benefits of time spent in nature over at BetweenUsGirls. Suffice it to say that nature, whether a hike in the woods or simply gazing at the river from your office window, can bring about relaxation, feelings of connectedness, and even spark creativity. While there is much research to prove that time in or near nature has a positive impact on mood, I am sure that you don’t need proof. It isn’t often that I run across a person who hasn’t experienced the soothing effects of nature for his- or herself.

Express Yourself.

Creative expression of any kind (art, crafts, cooking, decorating, writing) can bring along a great deal of positive emotion. Your work doesn’t have to be good…you just have to enjoy doing it.

Have Fun.

This might mean making more time for your hobbies, taking up a new hobby, spending more time with friends or quick-and-easy activities like seeing a movie, going to a concert or texting back and forth with someone who always makes you laugh. Anything that engages your interest or makes you laugh or smile.

Volunteer Work.

Quite often, doing things that help others, brings feelings of joy and accomplishment. Making someone else feel good often makes us feel just as good.

Now, there you go. Seven very good general ideas that can be made into a multitude of specific ones for generating positive emotion. I’m sure that now that you’re thinking, you’ll come up with some other original ideas. If you do, share them with us…please!

The older I get, the more that I realize that it really is the little things that make us happy. Becoming a happier person doesn’t have to be hard work. Remember, one step at a time. Have lunch with a friend, take a walk in the woods, play with the dog, see a funny movie. Every time you engage in an activity that peaks your interest, makes you smile or gets your endorphins flowing, it’s like money in the bank. A little laugh here, a loving hug there and before you know it you’ve become the happy person you’ve always wanted to be without hardly trying.

我们都在寻找幸福。我们沉迷于追逐幸福，但是有太多的时候我们会变得气馁。 我们独自努力摸索着，但是不知道怎么了幸福还是在躲避着我们。

这个问题的一部分在于“幸福” 这个词，某种程度上是不明确的。我们在知道幸福是什么和如何获得幸福以前就开始了我们对幸福的追寻。我们中的很多人把对幸福的追寻看作很大的麻烦。我们选择了这个广义的和很强大的目标“幸福”然后我们通过消除生活中否定的东西，找到真正的爱好，推测生活的目的和实现梦想等方式来达到幸福……全部都在午餐之前。然后我们开始疑惑为什么这没有用。

然而，对于幸福的追随是值得我们努力的。有研究显示积极的感情不仅仅给我们带来一瞬间的满足，还有长期的幸福。 积极的感情给我们快乐，抵消了消极情感的坏影响，建立愉快的心情和促进长期的身心健康。 (见我早期的帖子积极情感的力量) 我们并不放弃幸福，但是我们真的需要找一个更简单的方法。

就像我们都知道的那样，当我们有大的目标时，把它分成小块会比较有用。如果我们认为幸福是一种由他人的出现，积极的情感组成的总体的情感状态，达到幸福的过程会变得不那么让人望而生畏。

高兴，知足，爱情，兴趣和满意是积极情感中的几种他们会使我们感到快乐。我们越多的经历这些情感就越快乐。

到现在为止都很简单，对不对？但是我们该如何培养积极的情感呢？如果你想让它那样的话，也是很简单的。

当我们和自己喜欢的人（或动物）一起做某事或度过一段时间的时候，我们趋向于有积极的情感。你也许会在逗乐你的宝宝让他微笑的时候感到高兴，对报纸上的社论文章产生兴趣，或是在依偎在爱人身边观赏电影时感到无比的满足。在我们的生活中，有很多事物可以带来积极的情感。简单来说，在可能带来积极情绪的活动上投入越多的时间，我们就可以产生越多的积极的情绪，也就更有可能演绎出幸福的真谛。
为了使你启程，我列了一张非常详细的清单，包括了许多可以让你在生活中找到积极情绪的方法。当然，你可以在它们中间加入你自己的见解，或者与一些可以带给你积极情绪的人或是活动建立联系。这些都只是想法，不过是为了使你开始思考。

运动

好了，先不要抱怨。运动除了让你更加健康之外，还可以带来内啡肽的释放。这是一种在你身体里产生的、可以使你“感觉很不错”的化学物质。现在就运动吧，有谁会不想感觉良好呢？你可能会喜欢举重，或是长跑，或是更加偏爱参加篮球队。任何适度的体育活动都是有意义的。

与他人一起消磨时光

与他人一起消磨时光（不是任何人，而是那些积极乐观的人们。）可以带来愉悦、爱、兴趣等情感。与朋友一同出游；和家人一同旅行；与邮差先生闲聊……不喜欢谈话？只要时不时的对人们微笑就好了……当他们也向你微笑的时候——大多数时候他们都会这样做——看看这样是否可以使你感觉不错。
同时，不要忘记你的动物朋友。与小狗一同玩耍，在后院照料鸟儿或是小兔子，甚至与你儿子的宠物仓鼠交谈，这些都可以使你感到愈发的满足以至于笑出声来。（是的，我真的有同我儿子的仓鼠交谈，还有我女儿的……这有什么问题吗？）

冷静你的头脑

正式的默想，祈祷或者只是坐在那里闭目沉思几分钟都可以带来放松以及内心的平和。

身处自然

我曾经在 BetweenUsGirls上发表过一篇关于身处自然的益处的文案。进一步说，身处自然，无论是一次树林中的远足，还是简简单单的从你的办公室窗户里凝视一条河流，都可以带来轻送、满足的感觉，甚至可以激发创作的火花。有很多研究可以证明与自然共度的时光可以对人的情绪产生积极的作用，我可以肯定对于这一点你不需要更多的证据了。我很少遇见这样的人，自然的抚慰作用在他身上没有成效。

展现自我

任意一种创造性表达（艺术，手工艺，厨艺，装饰，写作）都可以带来许多积极的情绪。你的作品可能不一定是成功的……你只是喜欢创作他们。

过得快乐

这一条可能意味着你要投入更多的时间在你的爱好上，同时发现新的爱好，或是花费更多时间与你的朋友在一起，做一些“方便快捷”的活动。像是看一场电影，出席一场音乐会，与一个总是逗你发笑的人来回的发短信 。你可以做任何事，只要他们可以引发你的兴趣，或是能让你大笑或微笑。

志愿工作

经常性的做一些帮助他人的事，可以带来愉悦的感觉，并且从中获得社交的技艺。送人玫瑰，手有余香。

现在你都了解了，有七种很好的、很全面的见解可以作为寻找乐观情绪的准则。我敢说你现在一定在思考了，然后你会提出一些新颖的观点。如果你真的这样做了，与我们分享他们吧……拜托！

度过的岁月越多，我就越发的领略到，真的存在一些很微小的事物，可以使我们快乐。成为一个更加幸福的人并不是一项很繁重的工作。要记住，每次迈出一步就够了。与朋友共进午餐，在丛林间漫步，与小狗玩耍，看一场戏剧电影。每一次你从事一项活动（它或者可以激发你的兴趣使你微笑，或者可以是你的内啡肽运动），就像是把钱存进银行一样，你也可以存储乐观的情绪。像是一个小小的微笑，或是一个轻轻的拥抱。在你知道这一切之前，你总是想成为一个幸福的人，却又不喜欢努力尝试。但现在，你已经开始走在幸福的路上了。

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Natural fruits and vegetables is beneficial and harmless human hundred, especially now can be bought throughout the year all kinds of delicious healthy fruits and vegetables, why not use them, in addition to enjoying the sweet taste of the United States, the disease can also reduce the discomfort, not to worry Have any side effects?

Anemia: grapes, oranges, tomatoes, apples, strawberries, cherries

High cholesterol: Shanzhu, walnut

Hypertension: grapes, oranges, tomatoes, apples, walnuts, Lao Li, bananas, watermelons, persimmons, pears, peaches

Atherosclerosis: oranges, tomatoes, apples, strawberries, walnuts, bananas

Vascular fat: the oranges, tomatoes, apples, strawberries, walnuts, bananas

Stroke: apples, persimmons, pineapple, kiwifruit

Heart disease: apple, walnut, Lao Li, bananas, watermelons, pears, pineapple, kiwifruit

Diabetes: tomatoes, Lao Li, watermelons, pears, peach, guava, loquat

Bronchitis: grapes, apples, strawberries, cherries, persimmons, pears, pineapple, loquat

Asthma: grapes, peaches

Ulcer: Lao Li, bananas, pears

Gastritis: grapes, apples, Lao Li

Enteritis ─: grapes, tomatoes, apples, bananas, pineapple, guava

Diarrhea: Apple

Dyspepsia: papaya

Hemorrhoids: apples, bananas, persimmons, peaches

Liver disease: grapes, oranges, bananas, plums

Cystitis: Watermelon, peach

Urethral stones: Watermelon, kiwifruit, plum

Urethritis: Grape

Kidney disease: grape, orange, apple, strawberry, Cantaloupe

Endocrine disorders: grapes, apples, papaya, Cantaloupe

Back pain: watermelons, pears, citrus

Low back pain: watermelons, pears, citrus

Arthritis: grapes, loquat

Gout: pineapple, kiwifruit

Skin diseases: tomatoes, apples, strawberries, walnuts, papaya

Oral inflammation: oranges, pears, guava

Dental disease: orange, strawberry

Cold: strawberry, pineapple, loquat, lemon

Pregnant women antiemetic: pears
Han Liang fruits in general are:

Watermelon, pear, grapefruit, grapefruit, coconut, orange, persimmon hard, Shanzhu, tomatoes.

Heat of the fruit are:

Longan, litchi, mango, durian.

Ping of fruit are:

Bale, apples, grapes, oranges, papaya, strawberry, cherry, mulberry.

When the physical discomfort, it is the phenomenon of cold, heat and Han Liang of the fruit to eat. At this time of the can-eat little fruit

原文链接：http://www.yeeyan.com/articles/view/72032/32874/dz

天然的水果和蔬菜是对人体是有益无害的 ，特别是现在一整年都可以买到各种美味健康的水果和蔬菜，为什么好好不利用一下它们呢?除了享受香甜美味，还可以减少疾病的不舒服，而且不用担心有任何副作用。

贫血：葡萄，橙子，西红柿，苹果，草莓，樱桃

高胆固醇：山竹 ，核桃

高血压：葡萄，橙子，西红柿，苹果，核桃，老挝李，香蕉，西瓜，柿子，梨，桃

动脉粥样硬化：橙子，西红柿，苹果，草莓，核桃，香蕉

高血脂：橙子，西红柿，苹果，草莓，核桃，香蕉

中风：苹果，柿子，菠萝，猕猴桃

心脏病：苹果，核桃，老挝李，香蕉，西瓜，梨，菠萝，猕猴桃

糖尿病：蕃茄，老李，西瓜，梨，桃，番石榴，枇杷

支气管炎：葡萄，苹果，草莓，樱桃，柿子，梨，菠萝，枇杷

哮喘：葡萄，桃子

溃疡：老李，香蕉，梨

胃炎：葡萄，苹果，老李

肠炎 ：葡萄，西红柿，苹果，香蕉，菠萝，番石榴

腹泻：苹果

消化不良：木瓜

痔疮：苹果，香蕉，柿子，桃子

肝病：葡萄，橙子，香蕉，李子

膀胱炎：西瓜，桃

尿道结石：西瓜，猕猴桃，李子

尿道炎：葡萄

肾脏病：葡萄，橘子，苹果，草莓，香瓜

内分泌失调：葡萄，苹果，木瓜，香瓜

背痛：西瓜，梨，柑橘

腰痛：西瓜，梨，柑橘

关节炎：葡萄，枇杷

痛风：菠萝，奇异果

皮肤疾病：西红柿，苹果，草莓，核桃，木瓜

口腔发炎：橘子，梨，番石榴

口腔疾病：橘子，草莓

冷战：草莓，菠萝，枇杷，柠檬

孕妇止吐：梨子

寒凉水果一般是：

西瓜，梨，柚子，葡萄柚，椰子，橘子，方柿， 山竹，西红柿。

热的水果有：

龙眼，荔枝，芒果，榴莲。

平的水果有：

香梨，苹果，葡萄，橙子，木瓜，草莓，樱桃，桑椹。

当身体不适时，这是热气或寒凉的表现，在这个时候可以吃点相应的水果

Some people with autism have amazed experts with their outstanding memories, mathematical skills or musical talent. Now scientists have found that the genes thought to cause autism may also confer mathematical, musical and other skills on people without the condition.

The finding has emerged from a study of autism among 378 Cambridge University students, which found the condition was up to seven times more common among mathematicians than students in other disciplines. It was also five times more common in the siblings of mathematicians.

If confirmed, it could explain why autism - a disability that makes it hard to communicate with, and relate to, others - continues to exist in all types of society. It suggests the genes responsible are usually beneficial, causing the disease only if present in the wrong combinations. “Our understanding of autism is undergoing a transformation,” said Professor Simon Baron-Cohen, director of the autism research centre at Cambridge, who led the study.

“It seems clear that genes play a significant role in the causes of autism and that those genes are also linked to certain intellectual skills.”

Scientists have long been intrigued by the apparent association between autism and intellectual gifts in specific fields. This has made autism a hot topic in popular culture, from films such as Rain Man, which starred Dustin Hoffman and Tom Cruise, to books such as The Curious Incident of the Dog in the Nighttime.

Some people with autism have become renowned for their creativity. The British artist Stephen Wiltshire, 34, was mute as a child and diagnosed with classic autism. He began drawing at the age of five and soon completed cityscapes. One of his feats was to draw a stunningly detailed panoramic view of Tokyo from memory after a short helicopter ride. He has since opened a gallery.

Autism and the related Asperger’s syndrome are among the commonest mental afflictions, affecting about 600,000 Britons. Boys are four times as likely as girls to develop it. Autistic people can have special skills but they also tend to suffer from anxiety, obsessive behaviour and other problems that far outweigh any advantages.

The fact that autism runs in families shows that it is partly genetic in origin, but evolutionary theory suggests genes causing such a debilitating conditions ought to have been weeded out of the population. The Cambridge study hints at why this has not happened, suggesting that with variations in the way they are combined, such genes are beneficial.

On their own, such studies have to be treated cautiously because the numbers involved are small. In the Cambridge study, seven of 378 maths students were found to be autistic, compared with only one among the 414 students in the control group.

Other studies, however, have found similar patterns. Baron-Cohen, whose cousin Sacha Baron Cohen is the comic actor behind the Ali G and Borat characters, said: “Separate studies have shown that the fathers and grandfathers of children with autism are twice as likely to work in engineering. Science students also have more relatives with autism than those in the humanities.”

His research, set out last week in a meeting at the Royal Society, coincides with separate research showing nearly a third of people with autism may have “savant” skills.

Patricia Howlin, professor of clinical child psychology at the Institute of Psychiatry at King’s College London, studied 137 people with autism; 39 of them (29%) possessed an exceptional mental skill. The most common was outstanding memory.

She said: “It had been thought that only about 5%-10% of people with autism had such skills, but nobody had measured it properly, and it seems the number is far higher. If we could foster these skills, many more people with autism could live independently and even become high achievers.”

The idea that autism may have positive aspects is finding favour among some of those with the condition. Some resent being labelled disabled and have begun describing those without autism as “neurotypicals” to make the point that they could be the ones missing out.

Professor Allan Snyder, director of the centre for the mind at the University of Sydney, said: “Autism ranges from the classical picture of severe mental impairment at one end of the spectrum to Nobel prize-win-ning genius at the other. Both extremes have core autistic features, such as preoccupation with detail, obsessional interests and difficulties in understanding other people’s perspectives.”

Temple Grandin, 61, was diagnosed with autism as a child and is now professor of animal sciences at Colorado State University. She said: “People with autism have played a vital role in human evolution and culture. Before computers it would have taken someone with an autistic-type memory to design great cathedrals, while scientists such as Isaac Newton and Albert Einstein show every sign of having been autistic. The world owes a great deal to those who design and programme computers, many of whom show autistic traits.”

For Baron-Cohen the next step is to find the genes linked with autism; he is working with Professor Ian Craig of King’s College to scan the DNA of hundreds of autistic people - and of mathematicians.

原文链接：http://www.yeeyan.com/articles/view/Blackeye/30589/dz

孤独症患者通常有出色的记忆力、数学技能、或音乐天赋，这常常使专家们惊叹不已。现在科学家们发现，那些被认为是造成孤独症的基因，可能也会造就数学、音乐、和其它方面的天才。

这个发现是从一项对剑桥大学378名学生的关于孤独症的研究中得出的。这项研究发现，数学专业中患孤独症的学生可以达到非数学专业的七倍。另外，数学专业学生的同胞手足中患孤独症的，是非数学专业的五倍。

如果被证实了的话，它就可以解释为什么孤独症---一种人际交流障碍---仍然存在于各种社会形态中。很有可能这些基因通常是有益的，只有出现在错误的组合中才会造成孤独症。指导这项研究的剑桥孤独症研究所所长Simon Baron-Cohen教授说：‘我们对孤独症的认识正在经历一个转变。’

‘显然，基因对孤独症的形成有着重要的作用，而同样的基因也与某些聪明才智相关联。’

长期以来，科学家们对于孤独症与某些智力天赋之间显著的相关性很感兴趣。这也使得孤独症在大众文化中成了热门，产生了由达斯汀·霍夫曼和汤姆·克鲁斯主演的《雨人》一类的影片，以及《夜色下的死狗之谜》（The Curious Incident of the Dog in the Nighttime）一类的故事书。

有些孤独症患者因他们的创造力而名噪天下。34岁的英国艺术家Stephen Wiltshire小的时候不说话，被诊断为典型孤独症。他从五岁起开始画画，很快就把城市景色画了个遍。他的惊人业绩之一，是在乘直升机在东京上空短暂飞行之后，仅凭记忆将东京全景详尽地描画出来。从那以后他开办了自己的画廊。

孤独症和与之相关的阿斯伯格综合症是很常见的精神疾患，在英国大约有六十万患者。男孩患孤独症的机会是女孩的4倍。孤独症患者可能会有一些特殊的才能，但是他们也很容易焦虑，产生强迫行为和其他问题。这些问题给他们造成的痛苦要大大超过他们在才智上的优势。

孤独症可以在家庭的几代人中出现的事实，说明它的成因有部分的遗传因素。但是根据进化理论，这种致病基因应当早已被从人口中淘汰掉了。剑桥的研究暗示了为什么这些基因没有被淘汰的原因---因为在某些基因组合中，这些基因是有益的。

我们需要谨慎对待这样的研究结果，因为这类研究样本数量很小。在剑桥的这项研究中，378个数学专业的学生里有7个是孤独症。相比之下，控制组的414个学生中只有一个是孤独症。

然而，其它的研究也发现了类似的模式。Baron-Cohen说：‘有些研究发现，在孤独症儿童的父亲和祖父中，以工程为职业的人是非孤独症家庭中的两倍。学习自然科学的学生比学习人文科学的学生有更多的亲人患孤独症。’

他的这项研究是在英国皇家学会上周（译注：本文发表于2008年10月5日）的一次会议上宣读的。它刚好与另一项研究的发现不谋而合。那项研究认为可能有将近三分之一的孤独症患者有‘奇能’。

Patricia Howlin，伦敦国王学院精神病研究所的临床儿童心理学教授，研究了137个孤独症患者；其中39人（占29%）有特殊才能。最常见的才能是超常的记忆力。

她说：‘过去人们认为只有百分之五到十的患者有这样的才能，但是从来没有人认真地测量过。看来这样的人很多。如果我们能给他们以适当的培养和引导，就会有更多的患者能够独立生活，甚至成为成功人士。’

这种认为孤独症有它好的一面的观点受到了一些孤独症人士的欢迎。这类人士对自己被视为‘残疾’甚为反感，所以他们将非孤独症人士称为‘神经标准人（Neurotypicals）’，以说明在孤独症人士眼中，他们才是有缺陷的一类。

悉尼大学心智中心主任Allan Snyder教授说：‘在孤独症谱系中，一端是典型的有严重心智缺陷的患者，而另一端是获诺贝尔奖的天才。这两个极端的患者都有着孤独症的核心特征，比如注重细节，着魔于某些兴趣，以及无法从他人的角度思考问题。’

61岁的Temple Grandin小时候被诊断为孤独症，而她现在是科罗拉多州立大学的动物学教授。她说：‘患有孤独症的人们在人类进化和文化方面一直扮演着重要的角色。在有计算机以前，设计一个大教堂就需要一个有类似于孤独症患者那样的记忆力的设计师。像牛顿和爱因斯坦这样的科学家也表现得很像孤独症患者。我们全世界的人都应当感谢那些设计计算机和编写程序的人们，他们中间的很多人都表现出孤独症的性格。’

对Baron-Cohen来说，下一步是去发现与孤独症相关的基因；他将与国王学院的Ian Craig教授合作，对大量的孤独症患者和数学家进行DNA扫描。

Being part of a botnet is no fun. Your computer becomes your worst enemy, watching everything you do, collecting all of your secrets, and then delivering all that data to the bot-herder; the person who originated the network. But what does it really mean to be part of a botnet, and is there anything that can you do about it?

According to a report today from The Associated Press, Internet security company Prevx recently discovered a Web site that was being used as a storage facility for data stolen from 160K infected computers, and the discovery offers an interesting case study.

The storage site was hosted in the Ukraine and its contents showed that the botnet was harvesting data. Information found included passwords, social security numbers, credit card numbers, addresses, telephone numbers and other personal information; quite a treasure chest if you're into identity theft.

"One Southern California 22-year-old could be seen registering a domain name with
GoDaddy.com, changing his Yahoo e-mail password and ordering a meal online from Pizza Hut. His credit card number, birth date, telephone number, address and passwords are now all in criminals' hands, though it's unclear what, if anything, criminals have done with the information yet," the AP notes.

But it wasn't just individuals that were targeted. According to the article, both government and bank sites had also been compromised. The Associated Press contacted one bank customer whose Social Security number and other personal details were compromised during the attack, only to learn that he hadn't been notified by the bank.
Determine whether your PC is part of a botnet

So how can you tell if you're machine is part of a botnet and what can you do about it?

Statistically, Macs are safe from botnets, although not completely immune to all threats as we noted here. But if you have a Windows based machine, Prevx suggests you stay on the lookout for an Internet connection that seems inexplicably slow when you are online as it may be that a botnet infection is using your connection to send or receive data.

"If this happens, stop surfing, close your email software (e.g. Outlook) and try and open Task Manager by pressing the CTRL, ALT and Delete keys at the same time then selecting Task Manager," the company wrote on its blog recently. "When Task manager opens click on the Network tab and see if your PC is using the internet network connection, if it shows more than a few percent usage then this could be further evidence of something using your internet connection without your knowledge."

Prevx also suggests downloading another security product if you are suspicious, and recommends you use an alternative security product. "If your PC is infected then it is almost certain that your existing security product has already let you down."

Some of the free tools available include RUBotted (Beta) from Trend Micro, BotHunter from SRI International, or try an online virus scan with the Windows Live OneCare safety scanner.

原文链接：http://www.yeeyan.com/articles/view/pestwave/33585?orgin=index

陷入僵尸网络（botnet）可不是什么好事。你的电脑会成为你最大的敌人，监视你的一言一行，收集你所有的秘密，然后把这些数据发送给傀儡牧人（bot-herder），也就是建立僵尸网络的人。但陷入僵尸网络到底意味着什么？有什么对策吗？

今天美联社一篇报道称，网络安全公司Prevx最近发现了一个用于存储僵尸网络数据的网站，上面存有16万台被感染的电脑数据，这个发现提供了一个很好的研究案例。

该网站主机在乌克兰，其内容显示该僵尸网络一直在收集数据，包括密码、社保号、信用卡号、地址、电话号以及其它个人信息；如果你对身份盗窃感兴趣，这里可是你的天堂。

“你可以看到一个南加州的22岁小伙儿正在GoDaddy.com注册了一个域名，然后修改了雅虎邮箱的密码，接着从必胜客订餐。他的信用卡号、生日、电话号、地址和密码都掌握在犯罪分子手中，但是至于犯罪分子利用这些信息做过什么还不太清楚。”美联社报道称。

但是受到攻击的不仅是个人，政府和银行网站也没能幸免于难。美联社联系了一位受到黑客攻击的银行客户，却发现他并没收到银行的通知。

确定你的电脑是否陷入了僵尸网络

那么如何判断是否受到僵尸网络的攻击呢？该如何应对呢？

一般来说Mac机更安全，但也不能保证万无一失。但如果你有一台Windows电脑，Prevx建议你留意网速特别慢的情况，或许僵尸网络正在通过你的网络连接收发数据。

该公司在其博客上写道：“如果网速很慢，关掉邮件客户端（比如Outlook），同时按下CTRL，ALT和Delete键打开任务管理器，切换到网络连接选项，看电脑是否在使用网络，如果上面显示网络连接超过几个百分点，那么很可能有人在你不知情的情况下使用你的网络连接。”

如果用户怀疑电脑受攻击了，Prevx建议下载一款其它的杀毒软件，并推荐使用一款非主流杀毒软件。“如果你的PC机感染了病毒，几乎可以肯定现有的杀毒软件已经不管用了。

免费杀毒工具包括Trend Micro公司的RUBotted(测试版)以及SRI国际公司的BotHunter等，或者你也可以使用微软的在线病毒扫描工具Windows Live OneCare。

We can’t articulate it, but we know a charming person when we see one. It’s that person at the party who seems to know everybody. He works the crowd with such ease and has a positive aura about him, and everybody just seems drawn to him like steel to a magnet. He leaves people thinking “What a great guy!” and seems to have it all together.

I would be a fool if I wrote an article on how to be charming if I wasn’t charming to begin with. I don’t mean to say I’m the most charming man on the face of the earth, but I do have my moments. I’ve reflected back on those moments, studied other charismatic people, read books on the subject, and asked other charismatic people to share their insights on this elusive trait. You know what I learned? Charisma is not genetic. It can be learned. On to the 8 tips.

1. Get your own life in order first.

When everything is going right in your life, the world is your oyster. You’re in the zone, you’re on top of the world, you feel invincible, like everything has fallen into place just for you. You don’t have a single worry in the world and you feel like singing and dancing in the rain. With this kind of mental state, it’s a double edged sword. It can lead you to become the most charismatic person in the world, or the most obnoxious and boastful person in the world (more on how to not be the latter later on in this article).

You cannot fake charisma if you have problems going on in your life, whether it’s trouble paying the bills, family issues, relationship problems, etc. That stuff will weigh you down.

Get your life in order. Pay the bills, save some money in the bank, forgive other people, don’t hold grudges, be courteous to all, resolve any issues you have with people, have a passion in life, have a dream you’re working on, eat right, exercise, etc. You will find that getting your act together will make it extremely easy for you to be charismatic, because then you can do the other half of what charismatic people do, and that is focus on the other person.

2. Exercise

Exercise before attending any event or gathering (and please shower afterwards :) ). It’ll give you the energy you need to emanate your glowing charm throughout the room. It’ll get you in the right mindset of a being a happy positive person because of the endorphins circulating in your body. It’ll give you that confidence to start socializing. You’ll be on your game. Everything will flow just right because you feel like a million bucks.

3. Wear the clothes

You know what clothes I’m talking about. Everybody’s got an outfit that makes them feel like a million bucks. We all know that clothes make you feel good. If you feel good, it’ll be really easy to make others feel good. And the less worried you are about your appearance, the more you can focus on the other person. The more content you are with yourself (aka self confident), the more easier it will be to turn on the charm.

4. Pre-socialize

I don’t know why it is, but if I have socialized prior to attending a gathering or event, I find it way easier to turn on the charm. What I mean by pre-socializing is just striking up conversations with any person you meet on the way to the event; the store clerk, the people on the elevator, the security guard, etc. Just some light conversation. Nothing heavy. How are you? Busy day today eh? I like your jacket. Do you mind me asking where you got it? I think pre-socializing gets you into the groove of easily being able to talk to any person, one of the key skills in becoming charming.

When you get to the event:

5. Pretend you’re the host and talk to EVERYBODY

This is a very cool paradigm to try out. Instead of standing in the corner, sipping your drink and hoping somebody will come talk to you, take the initiative and start talking with EVERYONE, and I mean EVERYONE. You can do this if you pretend to be the host of the event. Start by looking out for people who are trying to act cool, but are desperately wishing that someone would go talk to them. You know exactly who they are. Rescue them from their worries and you’ll see their face light up and thank you for approaching them. Work the crowd, ask how everyone’s doing. They will all light up and respond favorably. Get to know people and introduce people to other people. Most people don’t have the guts to approach strangers, so when you do it for them, they’ll be extremely grateful.

Don’t discriminate based on social groups. People are all the same. Talk to the skater, the artist, the economist, the stock broker, the lawyer, the doctor, the entrepreneur, the bartender, the guy standing in the corner, the waiter, everybody. Talk to everyone and make them feel welcome. You just need to get the ball rolling. Once you start talking to one stranger and get in the rhythm, you’ll be an unstoppable social butterfly.

6. You, not I.

Charming people focus on the other person. Rarely are they themselves the topic of discussion. When you’re out there schmoozing, listen to people when they talk to you and give them feedback to indicate that you are listening and that you understand. Be genuinely interested in the other person. Ask all about them. Always think of how you can help them. Send business their way. Hook them up with other people at the party you think they might get along well with.

7. Make them feel good.

Give people genuine compliments. Everybody needs compliments like food and water because everybody’s self esteem can always use a little boost. Don’t go for the cliché compliments like everyone else. Remember, you’re the charismatic one. You’ve got to step it up a notch. Think of a genuine killer compliment.

Also, don’t forget to use the power of touch. A hormone called oxytocin is secreted when you touch someone and studies have shown that promotes bond and trust between people. Oxytocin is also a feel good hormone so when they get hit with it, they associate that good feeling with you as well. Obviously, use your better judgment here. Don’t go up and start molesting people. Be tactful with your touch. You will find that women are the masters of this. They will lightly tap your forearm when making a point or playfully hit your shoulder when engaged in conversation with you.

People tend to remember conversations with people who use the power of touch. I remember going to one event and being charmed off the socks with this one guy. He had it going. He was working the crowd, he saw me, introduced himself, and started to ask all sorts of questions about me. I, in turn, shamelessly succumbed to his charm and divulged a lot of information and we both had good laughs. You know why I remember him out of all the other people I interacted with that day? It’s because he squeezed my arm when he shook my hand. No joke. That’s how I remembered him. As the charming guy who squeezed my arm. Touch is a very powerful thing. Use it wisely.

8. Be positive.

Smile. Charming people are known for making people feel way better after interacting with them. They have a light feathery touch to them that brings smiles and good feelings to everybody they come in contact with.

Talk about positive things. Avoid negative things. You’ll always run into people who turn a good conversation into a bad one by bringing up some negativity. If that happens, try to tactfully point out the positive aspects of the situation. If that fails, excuse yourself from the group and move on. There’s no need to be part of the down group.

Get your stuff together, exercise, put on those nice clothes, get in the habit of socializing with everyone, talk with everyone, really listen and keep the focus on them, make them feel good, only associate yourself with positive things and people, and you’ll find yourself being that one person who’s always lighting up the room.

原文链接：http://www.yeeyan.com/articles/view/casimodo/32579/dz

虽无法言传，但我们能一眼看出魅力十足的人：他在聚会上似乎万人熟；他在人群中游刃有余， 顶着光环，众人像铁之于磁石那样地被他吸引；他让人们觉得“多棒的家伙！”；似乎他拥有这一切特质。

要是我没有魅力却写一篇关于如何变得富有魅力的文章，这岂不荒唐！我并不是说我是世界上最有魅力的男人，但我确有魅力四射的时候。我回味那些时刻，研究其他富有魅力的人，读这方面的书籍，向其他拥有魅力的人请教。你知道我学到了什么吗？魅力不是天生的，而是可以学会的。这里有八个窍门。

1. 先将生活纳入正规

如果你的生活事事如意，你就可以随心所欲、尽得其乐。你得其所哉，你站在世界之巅，你无可匹敌，仿佛所有花儿都为你开放。在世间你没有一丝烦恼，你想要在雨中纵歌起舞。这种境界是把双刃剑，它能使你成为世上最有魅力的人，也能把你变成人间最无聊自负的人（后文将着重探讨如何避免这第二种情形）。

如果你的生活存在问题，你就无法装出拥有魅力的样子——无论你是无法付账，还是家庭琐事，或是关系问题等等，这些都会压得你挺不起腰。

让你生活走向正轨。付清账单、把钱存进银行、原谅他人、勿怀嫉妒、对所有人都彬彬有礼、解决掉人际关系中的所有问题、拥有生活的激情、拥有梦想并去追求、合理饮食、锻炼体魄等等。你会发现当你身体力行这些之后，拥有魅力真是小菜一碟，因为接下来你能去做其他有魅力的人所做的另一半事情——那就是关注他人。

2. 运动

参加任何活动或聚会前，先运动一下（然后请洗下澡:) ）。这会赐予你所需的能量，让你魅力四射。这也将让你处于快乐积极的精神状态中，因为内啡肽正在你的体内徘徊。这还会给你自信去开始社交活动。你将会发挥良好，诸事顺利，因为你感觉你像个大款。

3. 着装

你知道我要说的是什么样的衣服。人人都拥有一套服装，穿上去觉得自己就像大款。我们都知衣饰能让你自我感觉良好。如果你自我感觉良好，那就容易让他人感觉良好。而且你对自己外形的担忧越少，就越能把注意力放在别人身上。你对你自己越满意（亦称自信），就越容易施展魅力。

4. 预交际

我不知道为什么要这样，但如果我在参加聚会或活动之前先交际一下，我就能更容易地找到办法来施展魅力。我说预交际的意思就是在你去参加活动的途中先随便找个什么人交谈一下，如店员、电梯里的人、保安等等。就只是一些轻松的对话。不要是沉重话题。你怎么样？今天很忙，是吗？我喜欢你的外套。可以问一下你在哪儿买的吗？ 我认为预交际让你处于一种可以和任何人交谈的最佳状态，这是展现魅力的不二法门之一。

当你到达某次活动时：

5. 装作主人的样子跟所有人交谈

这是个很酷的套路，值得一试。不要缩在角落里，啜着饮料，守株待兔地等人说话。要反客为主，开始和所有人谈话，我是说和所有人。如果你装着自己就是这次活动的主人，你就能做到这一点。开始四周环顾，去找那些努力装得很酷、但却很想别人能找其交谈的人。你知道他们是正什么样的人。把他们从窘境中解脱出来，你就会看到他们的脸上变得神采奕奕，他们很感激你能接近他们。在人群中四处活动，向每个人问长问短。他们都会变得神采奕奕的，而且会友好地回应你。去认识人，然后把这些人介绍给那些人。大多数人没有勇气接触生人，因此当你为他们做这些后，他们会非常感激的。

不要根据社会圈子做出区别对待。所有人都是等同的。溜冰健将、艺术家、经济学家、 股票经纪人、律师、医生、企业家、站在角落里的家伙、服务生以及所有人，都同他们交谈。和所有人说话，并让他们感到宾至如归。你需要做的只是让事情开始运作起来。一旦你开始和生人说话，并能侃侃而谈，你就会成为一只永不停歇的社交蝴蝶。

6. 是你，而非我

有魅力的人会关注他人。他们自己很少是讨论的话题。若你在那儿看他们闲谈，当他们对你说话时，你要仔细听，并作出回应以表明你在正在听而且明白他们的意思。要真诚地对他人感兴趣。问有关他们的所有事情。总是想着怎样才能帮他们。按照他们的方式行事。为他们和聚会上你认为合得来的其他人进行牵线搭桥。

7. 让他们得意

真诚地去恭维别人。恭维如同水和食物，每个人都需要，因为每个人的自尊总能获得些许提高。不要向其他人那样使用些陈词滥调。要记住，你是个富有魅力的人。你必要要高人一等。要想出一个真正的有杀伤力的奉承话。

还有，别忘了触摸的力量。当你触摸某人时，身体会分泌出一种叫做催产素的荷尔蒙，研究显示这会增进人们之间的亲和与信任。催产素也是一种能产生好感的荷尔蒙，所以当别人分泌出催产素时，就会对你产生好感。显然，对此你要做出更好的判断，不要去骚扰别人，在触摸时要机智老练一些。你会发现女人们精于此道，当他们表明看法时会轻拍你的前臂，或者当他们在与你交谈时会开玩笑似的击一下你的肩膀。

人们往往会记住那些触摸过他们的人的谈话。我记得有一次去参加某个活动，就彻头彻尾被这样的一个家伙给征服得了。一切尽在他的掌握之中。他在人群中活动，看到我，就进行自我介绍，然后就问有关我的各种各样的问题。而反过来，我却被他的魅力所折服，扭捏不堪地倾倒出我的很多事情，我们都很畅快地笑着。在那天我同很多人接触，但你知道为什么我却唯独记得他？这是因为当他同我握手时，他捏住我的手臂。不是说笑。这就是我是如何记住他的——那个捏我手臂的魅力男。触摸很好很强大，要活学活用。

8. 正面积极

要笑。让别人在与你交流之后感觉舒畅很多，这正是富有魅力的人的看家本事。他们还有一种轻如羽翼的质感，那就是将微笑和良好感觉带给同他们接触过的所有人。

谈论积极的事物。要避免消极的东西。你总会遇到这样一些人：他们在交谈时带入一些消极因素，从而把一次愉快的谈话变得尴尬不欢。如果碰到这种情况，试着巧妙地指出事情的积极方面。要是无法挽回，那就借故告退，另寻他处，因为没必要成为这低级谈话圈的一部分。

综合运用上述技巧：运动、优雅着装、养成习惯与所有人交际、和所有人说话、真正地倾听并关注他们、让他们感觉良好、只在自己和积极的事物和人联系在一起。这样你就会发现自己正在成为那个总是让厅堂熠熠生辉的人。